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Holy, Divorced, Disabled and Desperately in Debt

Holy

“Dear Steve,

I am a divorced 56 year old woman who suffered an injury as a teacher in a public school in May, 2000. I now suffer with a severe and permanent chronic pain condition (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy).

Social Security refused me any disability (chronic, debilitating pain is not considered disabling) and due to the struggles I’ve experienced throughout these 8 long years, I am deeply in dept. This probably would not have happened had I not been ill and needed pain med and treatments, which I am convinced alter my ability to make good decisions.

I relied upon help from my brothers who abused their powers and left me owing close to $50,000 in credit card and medical debt. I am trying to work but just can’t function well enough to be able to pay these debts off, and still accumulate medical expenses at a frightening rate.

I am trying to sell medicare insurance in an attempt to work again at my own pace since I never know if I can work from day to day and can’t handle stress associated with typical 8-5 jobs. It is hard and I feel like I’m adversely affected by my meds and am always trying alternate forms of therapy to alleviate my symptoms, but instead am feeling worse as time goes by.

Is bankruptcy my only option? I was never a credit risk until 2005 when my brother’s manipulations put me in debt, and my medical expenses escalated at a frightening rate. I have no property anymore, and live with my son.

I went from having a 750 credit score, nearly $20,000 saved after my divorce, no debt and the ability to earn between $45,000-75,000 a year to struggling on $14,770 a year in disbility retirement. My lousy retiree insurance plan requires a $5,000 a year deductible!

My medical costs (meds and payments on accounts) average $500 per month, and I’ll never pay some of those debts off, much less be able to pay future expenses off. My car is 11 years old and pretty close to expiration, my brothers stole anything of any value I could sell, and I just don’t know what to do?

Unfortunately, my children are young and struggling with their own businesses and lives, and can’t help much, nor do I want their help. Can you suggest a plan for relief of some kind?

Holy”

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The Answer

 

Dear Holy,

I am positive that with everything that has gone on and is going on it must feel like there is no direction to head in to get any sort of relief from the drumming pain and depressing debt.

Let’s tackle this is stages.

Disability

Just because you have been denied disability does not mean you are not entitled to it. It just means you’ll have to fight harder for it, that’s all. Many denied disability claims are approved on appeal as they move up the chain of command. See a previous question, “Roise Has Panic Attacks, Can’t Work, And Is Now Out of Money” for more information on steps you can take to push your case forward. Instead of giving up, get professional help.

Growing Medical Debt

You stated that you are still accumulating medical debts at an alarming rate. That concerns me. Even if you went bankrupt right now I’m not confident that it would place you in a better position since you may just accumulate debts that you will be unable to pay following bankruptcy. So in that situation, while bankruptcy may eliminate your past debts, it won’t do anything to improve the future.

Stop Paying Your Bills. Really!

The best course of action for you to take right now would be to stop paying the bills of unsecured creditors that would be discharged in bankruptcy. I know that sounds crazy, but it’s not.

In your current situation you have no assets, cash in the bank or property for a creditor to go after you if they sue you for non-payment and win. If you don’t go bankrupt the advantage is that you will not have to pay for bankruptcy, with money you don’t have but the downside is that not paying your bills will leave you with bad credit, subject to collection calls, and possible lawsuits. If a creditor does decide to sue you and you lose, you can always go bankrupt then to get rid of those claims.

The most stressful part of not paying your bills is dealing with collection pressure. But there are ways to deal with that. See How to Hide From Debt Collection, the Debt Collector, and Creditors for details.

If you find that you are able to pay for your regular expenses after you stop paying your bills, then maybe bankruptcy is an investment worth making. In that case, you should meet with a local bankruptcy attorney and ask for a free bankruptcy review to discuss your situation.

But, if you continue to get further behind then going bankrupt now will prevent you from going bankrupt latter and completely discharging your debts for another eight years and that can leave you hassled and without options.

Additional Steps to Take

There are some other ways to help increase you deal with this situation. While they won’t give you income via a check, they can lower your expenses to help you live.

Gratitude

This may be the hardest step to take but the most important in dealing with your situation. While your situation is bad, it could always be worse.

It sounds like you have children that love you, you’ve lead a nice life up until your medical problems, and you are still able to see a beautiful sunrise and draw a breath.

Rather then feeling as if life is raining down on you, look for every opportunity to be grateful for what you do have. While your retiree insurance plan has a “lousy” $5,000 deductible, at least you have some retiree insurance, many don’t.

Each hour and each day start focusing your attention on being thankful for the help you do get, the lives you changed as a teacher, the door held open by a stranger, a hug from your child, or a nice word you can offer to a stranger. Smile. Granted, it won’t change the numbers of your debt but it will help you to move through the days with more grace, instead of more fear.

Big Hug!

Holy, Divorced, Disabled and Desperately in Debt
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  • Kathy Goedde

    Found your response – usually people see the word “disable” and just ignore people (brain freeze or hate, maybe), so I didn’t check this out again, but I’m still trying – starving, hungry, trying to find a person that has a solution before I’m dead. Are you making a living selling on Ebay? The internet businesses that I’ve been found, appear to be scammers. Since I would lose and have to pay back the tiny microscopic bit of a “disability benefit” if I accept a low paying job, so I’ve NOT been able to accept those types of jobs – I will lose my home in addition to starving and freezing. I’m looking for a VIABLE job or a business. I’m ABLE to do everything that everyone else does – with the exception of I have aphasia, so I’m UNABLE to do telework. ANYTHING, ANYWHERE else to get a viable living would be great! I have a medical opinion of “disability”, I’m ineligible for SSDI, because I worked for two years and doing a good job before I was fired for “disability”. I’ll save this link and check back, if anyone has any input, I would greatly appreciate it! (I’m not yelling, I’m only accentuating the words that people can’t seem to see before answering me).

  • Deb

    Now people on Social Security Disability can work also and are getting assistance with job placement through the local Bureau of Vocational Rehab. Check your local government listings to locate an office.

    Also, you might begin a research of “home based business” books and resources on the Internet and in your local library. There are 100s of businesses that can be started with little to no start up money and experience. Selling on Ebay can bring in some nifty money too. That is what I am doing as I cannot find a job and have decided to work for myself as an Ebay seller and doing another home-based business, Indexing of books.

  • Kathy Goedde

    I have been forced to get a disability designation. This designation prevents me from getting a job. This designation allowed the insurance company to take away my retirement and replaced it by a tiny disability “benefit”. This is not enough money to live on. Because I do have this “benefit”, I don’t qualify for any governmental help. I’ve been trying to get a home job or business, since this happened well over two years ago. I haven’t found any thing at all, except scams. I do have a house and this is the cheapest way that I can think of to live, so I don’t want to give it up. Is there any help for me anywhere or from anyone?

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