I habe been married for 8 years. I got the mail recently and found the account summary for our Equity Line of Credit. All but 3500.00 of the 50,000 has been taken by my husband for the last 4 years. he has only been paying the 167.00 interest payment.
I was shocked for he never told me he was borrowing any of it. Last July I asked to go to the bank and get an 8200.00 loan to pay off a credit card that I used to pay for college. He said no, I’ll lend you the 8200.00 without interest but you have to pay me 600.00 a month to pay me back.
I made the last payment to him last week. Yesterday I went to the bank where our mortgage is held and opened my own checking account and moved the remaining 3500.00 to my account.
The female loan officer was very understanding and shocked for me. She showed me the Equity Line history and the 600.00 I paid him for the last twelve months was not repaid to the account. Just the minimum 167.00.
I am wary to confront him about the account. For he has hidden it so well for so many years. We filed our taxes jointly for the first time this year and he didn’t even mention the 2000.00 interest paid to the tax preparer??? THAT’s how much he is hiding it.
Furthermore, I am aware that to get spousal Social Security/Railroad Retirement benefits one must be married ten consequtive years. I want to hold out for that (like an indentured servant-I know pathetic huh?) as I do not have any savings or retirement fund of my own.
I want to use my head in this matter instead of my heart. This marriage has become more of a marriage of convenience.
Living in these conditions with a deceitful secretive person makes me wonder what else he is hiding?
My question…what preparations should I take to remedy this situation?
I am somewhat afraid to confront him with this knowledge—as he can be quite explosive…I plan on confronting him in front of a marriage counselor next week so I won’t be alone. When I confront him with this, do you have a suggestion I can give him to pay back the Equity? PLUS isn’t an Equity line suppose to be used to improve the house????”
That’s a horrible situation.
An equity line of credit can be used for anything, it just encumbers the equity in your home with a loan.
Since you moved the remaining $3,500 out, just bear in mind he may find out about that before your intervention.
When you confront him my primary question would be what he spent all the money on that has gone missing. Could it be gambling, drugs, or some other vice? If so you’ll really need to focus on that first.
How will he pay it back? Well that’s really going to be a function of his available income. Paying it back is fairly straight forward, just pay $1,000 a month for the next 50 months. I doubt he’ll be able to do that but let’s see.
I strongly suggest you check a copy of your consolidated credit report before your meeting next week. You need to look and see if there are any other accounts opened in your name that you might not be aware of.
Please update me on your progress by posting updates here in the comments section of your question. I’m very interested in how this works out for you.Big Hug!
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