Its really difficult for me to express myself as it is very painful even thinking about this, but I will do my best.
First of all I am a problem gambler and have been for the last 5 years. I currently have 3 bank accounts with overdrafts of about $6.000. I also have two loans of $30.000 each (one for my car and another which I lost on gambling). In the last 2 months I have lost another $100.000 on gambling (I have borrowed money from some very bad people).
I have to repay the $100.000 in the next few days and I have nothing. I cry all the time when I think about it. I cant ask for the help of my parents because if they knew I have this gambling problem it will kill them. I cant ask for the help of my brother because he has a family to take care. Also basically if anyone found out about my gambling problem my life will be over. That is the way things are in Cyprus (a small greek island). I am in a dead end and I dont know what to do. Sometimes I want to kill myself but I will never do because it will hurt the people I love the most. If I somehow find the $100.000 and solve my immediate problem I promised to myself that I will stop gambling. and I will do so because I dont want to hurt myself and anyone else anymore.
Thank you for listening
I wish I had some easy answers for you. Being in Cyprus or right around the corner from me, the answer is still the same.
I know you are hurting emotionally from this but trying to bargain your way out never seems to work. I’ve been helping people since 1994 and the approach that seems to be the most effective is to surrender yourself to reality, tell the truth to those you love, get treatment for the underlying gambling addiction, learn from your mistake and take what you learn and help others.
My advice is for you to research what help is available on Cyprus to address the underlying issues of gambling and then bring your entire family together and tell them the situation and the solution you have found. Until you do that you will only be running from the problem instead of facing it and fixing it.
I did find this article in the Cyprus Mail that will interest you, New support group hopes to reach out to gambling addict.
PEOPLE suffering with gambling problems will soon have an opportunity to seek help for their addiction.
Alan, a reformed gambler who spends much of his time on the island, will be opening a group of Gamblers Anonymous in Paphos in early July.
“I have had a holiday home here for several years and have realised that there are a number of compulsive gamblers in Cyprus who do not have anything in the way of help in stopping.
“My attention was drawn to the attempt to open casinos on the island. Gamblers Anonymous has no opinion on issues of this type as we only deal with the effects of compulsive gambling, but I can see the problem getting much worse.”
Please update me on your progress by posting updates here in the comments section of your question. I’m very interested in how this works out for you.