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You Ain’t Your Fucking Debt

On the way from a weekend visiting terrific friends and having lots of laughs, yesterday I was talking with Pam in the car, in the rain, and on cruise control.

I was thinking back on how all the difficult moments of our nearly 28-year relationship have changed our course. There was the day our daughter stopped breathing and turned blue, the IRS audit, and the State Police investigating our neighbor all on the same damn day.

Then there was our financial failure and bankruptcy.

There was the exhilaration of creating an influential non-profit financial assistance group and the depression of winding it down twelve years later. Finally, there were all the great employees and friends we worked with, and then there was laying them all off. There were dark days but looking back, all those dark days and pain led to a better future.

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When I got my financial ass handed to me, I wish I just had a friend at that time that said the following words to me:

“Learn from what you are living through right now. Better days will come your way. But most of all, be grateful for all the good things you have in your life daily. You are not your fucking debt.”

Those simple ideas would have served me well and helped me to know that even though I was down, like homeless down, I was not out.

You might be kind of down right now. You might worry about how to pay the bills or that your checking account is pathetic.

You might be worried about the next call from a collector or fearing the loss of your home. But let me tell you a one absolutely true thing. None of it matters. Really.

The tighter you try to hold on to your material possessions, the more screwed up things seem to become. So rather than be bitter, try to find some magic way to bridge the pain and carry yourself towards tomorrow because, trust me, the pain will pass, and tomorrow will be better.

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It’s always been that way for me, and it will be that way for you.


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