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My Wife Won’t Help Me to Get Out of Debt. – Chad

“Dear Steve,

I am married and my wife and I have seperated our money to where we both put in the same amount of money per month that equals our house bills and the rest is ours. I have fell into debt over my head using the extra money I USED TO HAVE.

My wife doesn’t want to take out a second mortgage to settle MY debt so I am just stuck getting further and further behind. I can only afford to pay the minimum payment and I want someone to negotiate with my lenders so that I can get this stuff paid off. Please help!

How can I reduce my payments and still get the stuff paid off in a short amount of time without consolidation or taking out a second mortgage (that my wife is against)?


Dear Chad,

I am assuming that since you manage your money like strangers that the debt you are in trouble with is in your name alone.

Now I’ve never been a fan of this is mine and that is yours in a relationship but now that you are in this mess, what can we do?

For all I know you have a history of not managing your money or living within your allowance. In that case then your wife probably has a good reason to not want to take out a second mortgage to bail you out.

The problem with your situation is that if it gets so unmanageable for you that you can’t continue to pay, and you do hold a joint mortgage with some equity, then bankruptcy could be problematic for you.

You could investigate a debt management program where you would make one monthly payment each month. Click here for debt management information.

I feel there is more to this story than you are telling me. Please post an update in the comments.

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Steve Rhode

Steve Rhode is the Get Out of Debt Guy and has been helping good people with bad debt problems since 1994. You can learn more about Steve, here.

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