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Ex-Girlfriend Drove Credit Into Shit Hole. – Victoria

Written by Steve Rhode

“Dear Steve,

My boyfriend is currently in the national guard, but he is home now, I have been dating him for a year and a half.

Before I met him, he was stationed in Afghanistan for 13 months (around 2009-2010), while dating another girl. While he was overseas, the girlfriend he had at the time used all his military money and ran his credit into the shit hole. She did not give him any money to pay off the debt. He is now in debt because of her.

How should he go about getting the money that she owes him, if there is a way since this happened a few years ago.


Dear Victoria,

I hate to assume here but did he give his ex-girlfriend access to his income or bank account while he was away? This sounds more like he trusted the wrong person to manage his finances for him.

Granted he was probably busy on deployment but did he ever login to check on his accounts to see how things were going?

I suppose he could always try yo sue his ex-girlfriend for sucking at managing his finances but it does not sound like an issue of identity theft.

Sadly, this is not the first, hundredth, or thousandth time I’ve heard this far too common story from others.

Please post your responses and follow-up messages to me on this in the comments section below.


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Steve Rhode

Steve Rhode is the Get Out of Debt Guy and has been helping good people with bad debt problems since 1994. You can learn more about Steve, here.

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