Debt and marriage: research on financial infidelity, hidden debt, the conversation that saves the relationship, and recovery options from someone who spent 12 years inside a credit counseling org.
Steve Rhode and Damon Day tackle one of the hardest conversations in any relationship: telling your partner about debt you’ve been hiding. They share practical advice on timing, framing, and coming to the conversation with a solution — not just a confession. Plus: why higher-income Americans are suddenly drowning in debt, and why Forbes Advisor’s debt rankings are not what they appear to be.
A new Achieve survey says 78% of Americans won’t date someone with short-term debt. But the real relationship killer isn’t the debt — it’s hiding it. Here’s what the data actually shows and what to do if you’re dating with debt.
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