Financial intimacy might sound scary to some but we need to have a little friendly chat about it.
You can share a house.
Share a bed.
Even raise a family together.
But when it comes time to share your credit score?
That’s where a lot of people suddenly get real quiet.
Listen to My Financial Intimacy Podcast
I’ve worked with couples who’ve been through everything together—illness, layoffs, cross-country moves—but when one person says, “Let’s talk about our finances,” the other looks like they just got asked to take the SAT naked.
It always amazes me.
We can swap bodily fluids or build a whole life together…But somehow, money feels like the most intimate part.
Financial Intimacy Secrets Don’t Stay Secret Forever
In this episode of the Get Out of Debt Guy podcast, I share the story of a man who couldn’t bring himself to show his credit report to the woman he loved—even after years together. When she gave him an ultimatum, he froze.
And he lost her.
Not because of his credit. But because he couldn’t be honest about it.
We talk about:
- Why financial intimacy is harder than physical intimacy
- The real emotions behind “separate accounts”
- How one brave conversation can save a relationship
- What happens when you wait too long to be honest
When someone finally does come forward with a money truth—yeah, it can get icy. I’ve seen it. The partner feels blindsided. Hurt. Angry. There might be some quiet dinners and long walks alone.
But give it a few days.
If the person with the issue shows up with a plan—not just guilt or tears, but an actual roadmap—things thaw out fast. Respect grows back. Trust gets rebuilt.
Two Ways to Break the News
Think about it like this…
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If you told your spouse,
“I knew the house foundation has been crumbling… but now it’s your problem too,”
they’d probably hand you a pillow for the couch.
But what if you said:
“I noticed a problem with the foundation. I talked to some experts. I made a plan. I know this is hard to hear, but I want us to face it together.”
Same problem.
Very different response.
Need a Plan?
If you—or someone you love—is carrying a money secret and doesn’t know how to break the silence, don’t do this alone.
Get help. Get a plan.
My friend Damon Day is a debt coach who specializes in this stuff. No judgment. No pressure. Just real answers and a clear way forward.
