I just heard “Get Over It” by the Eagles and it made me laugh because the message is so true in the debt world.
I turn on the tube and what do I see
A whole lotta people cryin, Don’t blame me.
They point their crooked little fingers ar everybody else
Spend all their time feelin’ sorry for themselves
Victim of this, victim of that
Your momma’s too thin; your daddy’s too fatGet over it
Get over it
All this whinin’ and cryin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over itYou say you haven’t been the same since you had your little crash
But you might feel better if I gave you some cash
The more I think about it, old billy was right
Let’s kill all the lawyers, kill ’em tonight
You don’t want to work, you want to live like a king
But the big, bad world doesn’t owe you a thingGet over it
Get over it
If you don’t want to play, then you might as well split
Get over it, get over itIt’s like going to confession every time I hear you speak
You’re makin’ the most of your losin’ streak
Some call it sick, but I call it weakYou drag it around like a ball and chain
You wallow in the guilt; you wallow in the pain
You wave it like a flag, you wear it like a crown
Got your mind in the gutter, bringin’ everybody down
Complain about the present and blame it on the past
I’d like to find your inner child and kick it’s little assGet over it
Get over it
All this bitchin’ and moanin’ and pitchin’ a fit
Get over it, get over itGet over it
Get over it
It’s gotta stop sometime, so why don’t you quit
Get over it, get over it
Now the “Get Over It” message can be true, and yes, you can still be a compassionate soul. But as long as you allow people to extend their grief by believing they are a victim, that is not helpful or healthy. A victim is power-less and I need you to become power-full to move forward.
Look, we all face adversity in life, and that’s not the issue. It is how we deal with adversity that counts. Some do better than others. I’ve got friends, who do nothing but bitch about everything in their lives. They feel they are always on the losing end because someone or this or that has done them wrong. The reality is that the reason they are always the victim is because they assume no responsibility for their life and take charge of it.
Make no mistake about it. When I went bankrupt in 1990, it kicked my ass, bad. I was mopey and depressed for about three years until I finally realized that I needed to get over it and move ahead with my life.
Now I’m not sure I would have heard the “Get Over It” message loudly back then but it was what I needed to hear. People that would have told me that would have been doing me a favor. I needed to get over it.
My approach to adversity now is a lot different. Now, I might mope about the big problems for a couple of hours, feel sorry for myself, get frustrated and upset but then get on the motorcycle, go for a ride and I get over it with a plan to move forward.
So if you’ve been through some bad financial times, quit your bitchin’ and get over it. Let’s leave the past in the past and set our sights for a new modern day. Stop looking behind you, get over it and start looking ahead.
Don’t make me hunt you down and kick your ass, I will, get over it. And if you do get over it and start moving forward, I’ve got an extra big hug for you, for sure.
Steve
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