Pam Is Out Of Cash And Out Of Time

“Dear Steve,

I am no longer making ends meet. I have my daughters Sallie Mae $20,000 loan payments starting in one month, I can only afford to put little bits of gas in my car at a time, I have a $5,000 car loan and about $12,000 in credit cards.

I have not bought anything that I did not need only used my credit to make ends meet and now I have no more credit. I’m hanging on to a 700 credit score and wonder if theres any use to even worry about keeping my score since the market is crashing and the FEDS are ruining our economy.

I make $45,000 per year and am a single mom with two daughters Should I stop paying my credit card bills and use that money to live off of?


Dear Pam,

Often times the hardest thing to admit that a moment of change has been reached and now is the time for radical or bold action.

From what you so kindly shared with me it is apparent that continuing the path of yesterday will not work for you tomorrow. You have student loan payments getting ready to kick in and you are all ready maxed out.

It does not sound like there is any reasonable expectation that your income is suddenly going to increase and allow you to pay both the student loan and the credit card debt.

I would suggest that you only make payments on the credit cards if you can afford them after all your other expenses. You don’t need to file bankruptcy right now but it is probably in your future if things don’t change.

While you can’t discharge or get rid of the student loan in bankruptcy, you can contact the Department of Education and see about getting on an ICR plan to pay what you can afford. See this previous answer for more information on that.

It is unfortunate that you have found yourself in your current situation but I think most people would recognize that when you are in a situation where you can only put a little bit of gas in your car at a time, that things are pretty severe.

I would not suggest that you enter a debt management or credit counseling program. That is not going to help you as tight as your finances are. The best way out of your current situation is to increase your income or reduce your expenses. And with your budget already trimmed to the bone, getting into the Department of Education ICR plan for the student loans and discharging your credit card debt is probably the best approach at the moment.

It would also be a good time for you to explain the reality of your situation to the kids and ask them how they can help in this difficult time. Maybe your daughter, with the student loan, can contribute some money each month towards the loan.

The reason I think that is important is that it sounds like you are living month-to-month and all it is going to take, even with bankruptcy, will be one unexpected and unaffordable expense and being homeless won’t be that far off.

The thing I’m least worried about is your credit score. Take your eye off your credit score right now and find a way to live within your income without resorting to credit. And every extra dollar you can manage to save, put it in a savings account for unforeseen expenses.

I’m worried about you. Be safe.


You are not alone. I'm here to help. There is no need to suffer in silence. We can get through this. Tomorrow can be better than today. Don't give up.
Steve Rhode
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